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The Dos and Don'ts of parenting

accept rules they understand. Just saying "no" isn't enough. You need to explain why you forbid this or that and why your decision is fair and good.
Do create routines. Routines are important as they reassure the child while helping him with things he might be reluctant to do (going to bed, coming to eat, going to the doctor,...). Routines are fun for kids!
Do what you say. If you said to your child he would be punished if he draws on the wall, you HAVE to punish him if he does. It's very important that your child understands that consequences to his bad actions are real, otherwise he won't respect you.
Do share things about you to your child. Showing your vulnerability is important. If your child sees you're human and understands you were a child too, he'll relate to you more and share his feelings more easily.

That's it for the dos. Now let's see the things you should NOT do.


Don't spank your child. Ever. It means it's OK to hit, to express anger without words. If your child hits you, tell him it hurts and show him how to express his feelings with words. There's some controversy about this but please trust our parents guide. Spanking is wrong and ineffective.
Dont set expectations that are too high. Your child will be afraid to disappoint you if he fails and it might prevent him from building his self esteem.
Don't spend a day without listening to what your child has to say, even if he's making up a story. It's very important to make eye contact and showing interest in your child's life.
Don't compare your child to his siblings or friends. Even in a positive way. Just celebrate your child's uniqueness!
Don't do things for your child. Let him try first, allow him to fail and try again. It's an important lesson. If parents guide children in every step, they still need to let children learn from experience.
Don't ask open questions to your child (under 4) like "what do you want to wear?". Rather give him the choice between 2 things ("the red or green shirt").
Don't interpret your child's behavior in a too literal way. A child's bad behavior is always the expression of a need that isn't met, something that isn't expressed. Try to look for the cause of a bad behavior before reacting impulsively.

I hope the advices of this parents guide help you see what you can improve in your parenting. The following paragraph might interest those of you who don't feel this parents guide is enough.

What if this parents guide isn't enough?

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